The right to abort
A baby is a miracle. It is beautiful. A gift.
But what if it is unwanted? My take on legalizing abortion? As in many issues, I am divided. As a Hindu, I do not support it. But as a woman, or human even, I sometimes think, why not?
Due to my religious and personal belief, I would never consider or support abortion. But I do not wholeheartedly condemn those who do. If I have the right to decide what is wrong and what is right without bothering what society thinks, then why not others? A woman who decides to abort her baby has a right to do so, if that is what she wants. Just as someone has a right to have a baby, another has a right to not want to.
Imagine a couple who are in their teens, and sexually active. The girl gets pregnant. Both of them do not want the baby, nor can they afford one. They are also too scared to tell their parents and peers. If the girl, with the support of her partner, decides to have an abortion, is that right? Or wrong?
The girl of course can opt to give her baby up for adoption. But what is she doesn’t even want to go through her pregnancy? Should she be forced to go through it anyway?
A fetus gets its own heartbeat when it is 22 days old. If the girl performs an abortion before that, it is okay as she is not actually killing a life being? And if she does it after 22 days, does it make her a murderer?
Deep in my heart, I know it is wrong. You always take a chance when you make love. The act of love might produce a baby. Even condoms are only 99% guaranteed, after all. Don`t want a baby, don`t make love. Of course, the chances of getting pregnant while protected are quite slim, I think. Unless GOD decides to show you who is the boss.
However, when I hear about girls getting an abortion, I do not judge them harshly.
But what if it is unwanted? My take on legalizing abortion? As in many issues, I am divided. As a Hindu, I do not support it. But as a woman, or human even, I sometimes think, why not?
Due to my religious and personal belief, I would never consider or support abortion. But I do not wholeheartedly condemn those who do. If I have the right to decide what is wrong and what is right without bothering what society thinks, then why not others? A woman who decides to abort her baby has a right to do so, if that is what she wants. Just as someone has a right to have a baby, another has a right to not want to.
Imagine a couple who are in their teens, and sexually active. The girl gets pregnant. Both of them do not want the baby, nor can they afford one. They are also too scared to tell their parents and peers. If the girl, with the support of her partner, decides to have an abortion, is that right? Or wrong?
The girl of course can opt to give her baby up for adoption. But what is she doesn’t even want to go through her pregnancy? Should she be forced to go through it anyway?
A fetus gets its own heartbeat when it is 22 days old. If the girl performs an abortion before that, it is okay as she is not actually killing a life being? And if she does it after 22 days, does it make her a murderer?
Deep in my heart, I know it is wrong. You always take a chance when you make love. The act of love might produce a baby. Even condoms are only 99% guaranteed, after all. Don`t want a baby, don`t make love. Of course, the chances of getting pregnant while protected are quite slim, I think. Unless GOD decides to show you who is the boss.
However, when I hear about girls getting an abortion, I do not judge them harshly.
posted by still_figuring_out | 2:49 PM
25 Comments:
The whole idea of abortion is like yuckkkk to me....I mean how do people find courage to kill that unborn child
Jeeeezzz...
hi Still_Figuring_Out,
I dun really know on what measure should i even judge when it comes to abortion. i mean people come from all kinds of circumstances just as you have mentioned. I have come across people who are totally against it though. like kill! kill! totally and can be pretty extreme.
and i didn't know that its only after 22 days will the fetus receive his/her heartbeat. Thats informative..:) thanks!
I've known some people who have gone through with abortion some due to unsucessful growth of the fetus and some due to hard & challenging situations. and All of them who walked out of it did not walk out satisfied but with a broken heart after each experience. and i feel in no place to judge without even wearing those shoes to start. Its sad though. the whole thing abt abortion and allowing a life to be gone or having to experience such a walk.
Yikeeyyyyyyyyyy...wanna make love theres lota a ways to stop geting pergnacy... me aganist abortion..... its horrible to kill there own kid... atleat we can saw that they didn't saw the face of d baby... some morons are there, they kill the born baby girl...donno what there heart made of....
Cheers!
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Sometimes we can't blame the girl's situation. But I think if she is old enough to have sex, she is old enough to know about the ways to prevent conception.
But a couple, who didn't take any precautions, and gets pregnant... they have to take a moment to think of those who wants a baby but can't conceive. This also goes to those who dump their new born babies. I wonder how they don't see through their baby's eyes...
Unless they are any health or other valid reasons, aborting is heartless!
Having sex without responsibility is a big no-no. Adults with brains who do that are worse... Having unprotected sex is like preparing for a new life.
Pls show responsibility; think before you act, esp if you are going to create life in the process.
No words for those who decide to abort or to keep after that. Both are equally heavy in consequences.
Somehow id rather the child is aborted then being found dumped to die at a dumpster!
But did u know its illegal in msia to abort even for medical reasons - even if the child is confirmed dead mother has to go through the pregnancy - even if the child will die after birth the pregnancy must be continued
Well this is a real sensitive issue..
Right or wrong..i think the most important factor which coms into play when the question of abortion is raised is the circumstances of the couple involved..Honour of family,personal future..financial strength ..everything comes into play..and very often they win if the child is out of the wedlock...
But then there are other medical cases too..where the child is aborted to save the mother and when the kid to be born is physically retarded...
I guess ..as you said nothing can be categorised intp black or white..
Watching my father die blurred the lines between life and death. The docs said when he stopped breathing he was dead, then they changed it to when his heart stopped. What about brain activity? I can't figure it out. So, when does life begin if I can't even tell when it ends?
Then I watch what my friends go through with pregnancy. Some had gestational diabetes, arthritis so bad they couldn't get out of bed, their hair fell out, their breasts oozed pus, they had violent mood swings, they were throwing up for 9 months straight, and they never fully recovered. I know one who had a rare condition that required her ENTIRE set of female reproductive organs to be removed because they were pulled outside of her body with the birth. She has no sex life now and feels like she's not a woman anymore. How can we force someone to go through that? There's always the risk of death to the mother, even in this day and age.
I'm pro-choice, but it's not something I say without a heavy heart.
there a lot of ifs when we consider abortion as u rightly pointed out ....
Ash
I'm a guy, so I hope you will allow me this comment. The decision to have an abortion would be the hardest one I would ever want to have the right to make.
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I am pro-choice. There is way too many unwanted children around. I see it like an egg. I've cracked open many a fertilzed egg and ate it.
But, when I crack one open and a thing that looks like a chick plops out, makes me cringe.
What does this have to do w/abortion? Abort them only when they look like egg things, not baby things.
I agree, it's not that hard to keep from getting P.G. (even if you have lots & lots of sex). Unfortantely, young people don't think it will happen to them & hindsight is no good when the squalling thing is peeing all over the place & they have to take care of it for years & years.
I have no faith in GOD (whatever your fav. version is) It is up to humans to not over-populate to planet w/ unwanted children. It is very easy to sit up on a mountain & pass judgement.
What really irks me in America is: the people who scream the loudest about not killing babies, are usally pretty good at killing adults.
This of course is my own opinion, & we aren't arguing about it, which is nice.
i am pro abortion too.... even though i have not thought much of the ethical reasons for both agreeing or disagreeing with abortion.. all i have thought till now is that if u cannot bring up a child and yet give birth to it.... then anyways the childs life is wasted.. .it will feel unwanted always.... u have already killed it then... by making it an unwanted child....
u can never give love to such a child.... and when that child realizes that it was unwanted it will die or it will change drastically...
why bring someone who u do not want in this world.... let this world be full of love rather than be full of unwanted and mentally assasinated kids
I don't find therz anything wrong with it ... why to bring that child into existence when u know u dont want him ... or cant take care of him ... or u gonna curse him forever .... Even if tiz after 22 days ... it's better kill that nothing instead of bringing him up to be nothing or as a nothing!
It's on the parents to decide ... mistakes do happen ... but if we dont amend them in time ... it wud be a bigger mistake ...
Like you said, This problem mostly in teen girls. Well, I'm not Anti-Abortion, I'm Anti-Teen sex, May be it ounds Crazy, It might be a Conservative Statement to many people but I can't give up on my Faith.
I believe Abortion is only allowed if there's a situation of Rape. I hope you 're doin' good.
God bless you....
I am so against abortion.. Man! How can you kill a baby?
The to-be parents are completely responsible for their action. Why should a third human suffer for that? This is so ridiculous.
Agreed.
Btw that baby photo is really cute. allow me to copy it, he he
abort them while u can or dump them elsewhere when u are helpless later..
for me, rather than dumping new borns in rubbishbin for Alam Flora to collect, rather than leaving them outside temples and mosques, rather than abandoning them in other ppl's home..its a lot more better to abort..yes, i may sound cruel..but what is more cruel than bring a child into this world, unwanted?
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must all unwanted ppl be killed?
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the old folks
eve teasers
racists
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**If the girl, with the support of her partner, decides to have an abortion, is that right? Or wrong?
Abortion is wrong and is a crime. If they can go ahead and make love w.o. thinking for a minute, then be prepared to bear the consequences. Adults r supposed to be responsible...so dun kill innocent babies as a price for their mistakes.
Good post SFO.
Keshi.
when people make love they do it knowing they can have a child so they should be responsible for their actions!
However in cases where their abnormalities in the babies formation , I think it should be done and then there's the whole case or rape. Many times the vicitms don't want to have the rapists child and really I think that is a serious Grey area!!
But otherwise babies are miracles,I love kids
i will be lost wen i hear close friend going for abortion.
I will also b sad if i do not know them
Overall Am worried of the process for them
Mayb sometimes they have to think of the aftermath of it@
I like the way that u hv expressed ur thoughts. Very well done!
It works this way I feel: A woman will have her reasons to abort and that I think shouldn't be prevented. After all she is an individual!
I would support her provided she has a valid reason.
I like the way you think on this one. I am very ambivalent about this issue. I have endless empathy for a woman who finds herself in the situation of carrying a child she doesn't want. I would say, though, that there is NO SUCH THING as an "unwanted child". The pregnant woman may not want it, but there are, in North America at any rate, waiting lists two years long of people who want to adopt an infant. Someone out there desperately wants that baby.
Having worked with people who have been infertile for years, I know just how desperately they want that baby. So, no, it's not unwanted.
My personal response to this issue is not to picket abortion clinics and thus traumatize women who are already traumatized, but to offer a home and support to a pregnant woman with nowhere else to go.
I know someone who's done this twice now. Without the support, these women would have undoubtedly have chosen to abort. Because of the support, two lovely children now grace this planet, two young women are back into their own lives without the trauma of abortion, and two other families have the child they craved.
If everyone who was opposed to abortion did this a few times in their lives, I wonder how many fewer there'd be each year?
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